Jason is disabled American Veteran who served our country for 20 years. While in the military, Jason deployed into battle 7 times. He served as a warrant officer, is now retired as a disabled veteran and has so much to be proud of.
However, there is a darker shade to Jason’s eyes now. The once very bright eyes that shown through are a tad bit dimmer. There are times that I have looked at Jason after knowing some of what this man has been through and wondered, how does he stay sain. I believe Jason wonders that sometimes too. Maybe it’s the many pills that he is forced to take from being hit with an IED while at war. Maybe it’s the help he receives from his dog Lola when he wakes from night terrors. Maybe it’s the people he surrounds himself with that call him friend.
I’m certain that it’s his two daughters, that keep him going and striving every day to be the man he is.
I think that we civilians tend to shy away from asking questions to our vets when they come home from war. We assume they don’t want to talk about it. We assume that it's best to just be quiet and continue living life.
We civilians continue to live life, while our soldiers do not know how to re-conform to the normalcy after all they have witnessed.
I asked the questions that no one wanted to ask because I too needed to know the truth. I asked because I wanted to understand Jason better. I asked because I could see the pain and dark in his eyes. This is just part of Jason’s story, A very small part, told through many different images. I am hoping that this project helps bridge the gap, even just a little, to understanding our vets, our wounded, our warriors. I hope that more will reach out.
I asked Jason to come just as he was, I asked him to just be honest.
Our so called interview started with me asking Jason what he feared. A question that many of us need to ask our self.
Jason: My girls..... not being able to control everything around them, not being there to always protect them.
Me: How many times did you go to war?
Jason: 7 times
Me: Did you kill anyone?
Jason: Yes lots of people.
Me: Do you remember the first person you killed?
He was a fifteen year old kid.
Me: A kid?
Jason: Yes, but he wasn’t a kid, not like you and I know. This kid was ready to kill us. They are trained with guns.
Me: What did it do to you?
Jason: The first one messed me up a bit.
Jason: After a while, it just becomes the job.
I showed Jason the back of my camera after I took the Above photo.
Jason: You know what, that is how I feel most the time. That's exactly how I feel.
Me: Did you know a lot of people that died?
After a very long silence, Jason begins to sit tall and roll his shoulders.
Me: Are you okay?
Jason: Yes my neck just gets really stiff.
Me: You have a neck injury right, was that from war?
Jason: Yeah, I was in a tank and was the gunner, and an RPG hit the back and broke the gunners hatch which smashed me in the head.
Me: Oh my, So did you pass out?
Jason: Yeah for like a minute, but then I came to.
Me: And did you go to get help?
Jason: There is no getting help, you just have to keep going. I knew something was broken, but I had men that I was in charge of and had to keep going.
Me: So you kept fighting with an injury?
Me: Well, get comfortable, move around if you need to
Jason removed his sweater and I noticed he had a gun tucked away in his pants. He reached over to remove it and put it down.
Me: No go ahead and keep it, that's you.
Jason: Yeah, I do take Roscoe everywhere I go.
Me: Okay Jason before you get dressed, I'll take one of those famous looking MMA Fighters pictures that look badass.
Jason actually threw himself into a local MMA club in Colorado Springs to sort out some of his demons. He said he loved getting involved in it, it was a way to fight without getting in trouble.
Me: Jason, when is the last time that you have had your portrait taken?
Jason: Well, at the ranch, when you took pictures of me petting the horses.
Me: No Jason, like a real portrait, one that you could pass on to your girls, one that they can always look at and see their dad?
Jason: Man, I guess when Chey (his youngest daughter) was like 5.
Me: Okay well give me one for them. Smile or laugh for me. Show me what your girls do for you.
Jason’s story is all but one of the hundreds and thousands of stories out there. Do all of our soldiers want to talk about it? I’m sure they don’t. I'm sure that it is to painful.
I’m sure some wish they could take away the vivid visions, the sounds, even the smells from their minds and erase them.
I’m sure that some will try their damndest to shut it out.
I know some have tried to forget with every addictive opioid swallowed.
Moreso, Many have taken it to the grave with them, the moment they took their own life.
We should not assume however, that all want to remain quiet and hold that burden in. We cannot pretend that nothing has happened, while expecting them to get back into being regular citizens and not trained killers? These men and women have to figure out how to live with these new uninvited demons. Demons that seem to wake them in the night. Demons that seem to chase them everywhere they go. The relentless ones I call them. We can’t always just look the other way and be quiet. Sometimes they DO want to talk about it, they just need an opening.
I want to give them the stage.
I am a storyteller. That is what I was called to do, to tell eachones story, even the hard ones.
If you know of any Men or women that want or need to tell their story and they just may not know how, please reach out to us.
Lea Flores Photography and The Boudoir Suite is so very happy to announce a new partnership with the company USBMemoryDirect. A company that provides customizable flash drives to small and big businesses alike! I am very excited to be onboard with this very innovative company and excited to get some of these beautiful made flash drives into the hands of my clients. They have even customized a very special design just for me and my business and can also do the same for you. I'm in love.
With that being said I know the first question from my clients are going to be, wait aren't you a print artist and doesn't this go against what you have preached for so long? Here is a semi short answer to that, also let climb up on my soap box for just a moment. Yes I am.
Did you know that we are called the lost age? We are called the lost age because we are taking millions and millions of pictures everyday around the world and 86 percent of those photos will never see print. Here is what this looks like. We take a picture, share it, delete and make room for more.Just like that, your history is gone. Now while this is all great for that "gotta share that now moment," in the log spectrum of things, we will lose this memory for good if we don't save it, or print it. We cannot put all of our hope into the vast forum of facebook in hopes that it will never go away. if the thought of facebook going away scares you, the thought of all those memories you have there, that diary you rely on so much just vanishing, this is where you really need to start thinking about your legacy and what you are doing to preserve it.
I created a family heirloom a few years back. A very large print of my family that I could pass down to my kids and that would also give others a glimpse of who we once were when we are long gone. I did this with intention and for two reasons. One, I really needed to make sure that I was practicing what i preach as a photographer who prints and two, I was so very inspired after leaving my grandparents home in georgia.
Let me tell you a little bit about my family and the legacy that we have. there is a 7 generation old colonial home in georgia that has been passed down again and again to the men in my family. my family has done a very good job of preserving our history over time by keeping the majority of the items found in that home original to include the prints of ancestors passed on the wall. I remember walking through the home and staring at each individual picture. Some of my great, great grandparents, first, second, third, fourth and fifth cousins and so forth. I stared deeply into the beautiful prints, wondering who they were, what kind of life they lived, what secrets they held behind their eyes. I also realized in that moment, had these pictures not been there, I'm not sure i would have ever even thought of these individuals.
We are here for only a short time. We too have a legacy to leave behind. You need not be famous to have an interesting story to tell. We all have stories to tell. How will people remember you when facebook and instagram is long gone? What do you have now hanging on your wall that your kids can stare at and admire should you leave this earth today? When is the last time you have been photographed? Do you have an updated professional portrait on your wall?
You see, here is the great thing about being a print artist. I choose to provide my clients with a tangible piece of history. Not only that, i can also give them the power of digital on a device like this to share and store away as insurance. I have now given my clients a legacy to leave behind while also giving them the option of being able to share their photos in this digital world. I am very excited to be able to offer both of these invaluable products to my clients.
Very Special thank you to Mr. Lionel with Lions Pride Framing Fountain Colorado for providing the housing and frame for my heirloom piece. This is one of my most prized photos.
Also thank you to Godecs in Colorado Springs Colorado for keeping the power of a print alive with what you all do!
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Do you know the amount of women that are going around wearing the wrong bra size? It’s in the high 80% percent. That means that you are probably one of those women. The majority of that percentage is women that are wearing bra sizes too small. If you are like me, I always thought of the cup size as the size of my breast. Oddly enough, it isn’t! Get this, it is actually the difference between the size of your breast and your rib cage? I mean what the hell does your rib cage have to do with it? This one really had me scratching my head.
I was a very flat chested girl, until that is, the summer of 1994. I remember that summer so clearly. I was so envious of a girlfriend of mine who was a full size B already. A FULL SIZE B! I on the other hand had already been teased by some older boys who called me the dreaded “flat chested girl.” I was ready for my flowers!
So when that summer came, I mean finally came, I held my shoulders back proudly every where I walked and pushed out even further my new perking flowers in bloom! Full bloom!
I also went out to purchase my bras, very proudly telling the ladies at the counter with a smile on my face that I was a full size C. In actuality I had no idea what I was, I just grabbed what I thought fit. To be quite honest with you, I still really don’t know, and again to be honest, many of these women behind the counter, really don’t know either!
(No that's not me!)
As a boudoir photographer who sees women in lingerie every day, I thought it was about time that I really got up on my lingerie knowledge. You see I photograph women of all shapes and sizes and it’s important that I guide them in what to wear by giving them advice on what will look ravishing on their body. So I hit the streets of Colorado Springs to some local lingerie stores in hopes of getting knowledge from someone who specialized in this area.
I didn’t just want to walk into the Victoria Secret Store, I wanted it to feel more personal. I mean after all, I’m going to be pulling out the girls for a stranger and we haven’t even had dinner together?
I wanted to know I was going to get a little more one on one treatment before we went to second base.
I found The Sweetest Secret Boutique on Tejon Downtown Colorado Springs.
I walked in and it was quite, which was preferable to me. The store was so very cute with all sorts of items on display. The owners, whose name is Coleen, greeted me with a smile. I browsed and we got to talking. I asked her about sizing and carrying items for all shapes. She assured me she did, from petite to full size. She also explained to me that it is very important when trying on bras that you have someone that can measure you. That’s the key to wearing the right size. She explained that she did this for clients on request. She was so knowledgeable about the different body types that I was ecstatic. A small local business that I could support as well as send my clients to. Someone who would take time out to make sure that my clients are getting the right sizes for not only their girls, but their bodies as well! The best thing of it all was, it is so personal, much like their session with me! I’m sure now that the second or third time you walk in, Coleen will just begin to know who you are and recommend its to you!
Now that we know most of us women are either floating in our bras, or cutting our blood circulation off to our breast, you may want to check and see if you are wearing the right size and there are a few others way to check. One would be by looking for a bra size calculator or app right on your phone. That’s right my Colorado Springs women, they make a few apps for it! One tell tell sign you could be in the wrong bra size just by looks is the side boob popping out at you, or the front bubble in your shirt that you have to keep tucking in. It could be digging into your shoulders or wrapping around your body so tightly it leaves marks. These are all things to watch out for. Educate yourself and then go buy a bra that fits!
I’m happy to report that I kept growing after that summer and ended up a verified full size 36 DD Baby. Better yet, I ran into one of those boys later too, I just smiled and nodded my head!
Oh and to find out what the rib cage has to do with it, go see Coleen and let her know Lea sent you!
Since the very moment that I decided I wanted to be a photographer, I knew that I loved Boudoir the most. I loved everything about it. From the one on one time with all different types of women, to the gut filling laughter we share, and most of all the transformation that happens in the session.
Most women walk into the studio completely nervous, sometimes even shaking. Although this is completely normal especially in this type of intimate setting, I don't want them to remain this way. I want them to be able to relax and zone into the goddess that I know they are.
It is required for the majority of my experiences that my clients get hair and makeup done by a professional. I find this part so vital to the whole experience and here's why:
The long walk way to my studio is actually not so long, but I can see it already, someone shouting in their ear as they walk down, "The Green Mile, walking the green mile." I can only imagine it feels this way and oh the thoughts that these women are most likely experiencing in these few moments. I'm sure their hearts are racing, knowing that they are going to be putting themself in a very vulnerable state. I mean it's not everyday we take off our clothes in front of a complete stranger.
It's so important to me that these women have some time to relax and be pampered, allowing them to settle in before I get started on their shoot. So the first reason my artists are vital to these sessions is because they are the calm welcoming presence into the studio. These ladies are the first faces that my clients see when they come to the Boudoir Suite.
That's right, I don't dare show up until a little later as I'm the one that holds the camera! The tool that sees down to the very soul of you.... Kidding, Kidding!
These women have a way of making my clients feel amazing even before their makeup is applied. They open up the space, they get to know their why, they get to know their story. This then allows me to come in after the nerves have gone away and most of the time I'm walking into full blown laughter.
One of the next reasons I require the hair and makeup in my sessions, is there is nothing quite like having it done by a professional. Most of us women need a little help in the makeup applying department. Unless that is, that you are a die hard YouTube fan and watch tutorials on this all day. Professional makeup artist have a way in applying the makeup so that it goes on smooth, and still a little more heavier than normal. They have spent hours on their craft and invested in their trade, just as I have being a photographer. That is why we are professionals.
In photographing, there is a certain light, that can hit a woman and make her look flawless, but it can also diminish the makeup, almost washing it out a bit. Things like coloring in the eyebrows a little heavier and darker is important. While most women do apply a little something to the brows, they typically will not know to go heavier and it can have a negative impact on the final image.
I am not the kind of photographer who loves to sit in front of the camera and edit all day. I love to take as clean as shots as possible straight out of the camera. Makeup also has a lot to do with the final finished product and how much editing is required. The camera will pick up on non straight lines and uneven tones. When you have a close up taken like the one above, chances are IF the makeup had been done incorrectly, it would be very visible.
Here you can see the beautiful clean cat eye and very well blended eyeshadow done by a professional,
The most rewarding part of doing boudoir photography is the seeing the women transform right before my eyes. From unconfident to vixen, from anxious to relaxed, and nervous to ready. It's like it happens in slow motion and we get to witness every part of it, starting with hair and makeup. There is nothing quite like having a professional artist transform your look to something that you may not be as accustomed to. But that's what this is all about right? Coming out of your shell and doing something you normally don't do! I want these women to see themself in a different way, I want them to experience what it's like to be pampered up. I want that celebrity experience that unfortunately we regular women don't get all the time. I want them to feel this from start to end!
If you have never experienced boudoir, or photographed with a boudoir photographer, I challenge you to do so. I challenge you to come out of your shell and allow my artist first to make you feel absolutely gorgeous and then allow me to show you exactly what we got to see through the lens.
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I have photographed thousands of people in my career. Honing into my skill as a premier boudoir photographer I have photographed more women. This has given me the edge to learning all the different shapes of a woman's body and posing women in a way, to assure they feel confident with their curves, baring them in their best light, However, not all of this is determined by posing, and in fact a lot of this can be handled by wardrobe choice. How, do you know what's best suited for you and your body type? How do you know what will hide those areas that you may not want to show as much and highlight the areas you do? Well, you don't typically, unless your a lingerie model, and so, that is where my expertise as your professional photographer will come in very handy.
First and foremost, you have to be able to identify your body shape. We are all not stick figured, and may even need help identifying this part. Many times to make the process easier for women, I will have them take a picture of them self standing straight and send it to me so that I can be able to start recommending the best lingerie or outfits to wear for their photoshoot. However for the sake of this blog, I recommend that you go ahead and do this for yourself. Examine your body closely and figure out which shape best identifies your body. Do you have those very curvy hips, or are you a little more rounded on the bottom and smaller up top? Are you pretty lean and long through out, or are you super bustier on the top and tiny in the middle? Once you can figure this part out, we move onto the next step, which would be the question of, what area of your body are you a little insecure about?
Shooting boudoir photography, I have learned that we, women, are supercritical creatures of ourselves. Trust me, I am no stranger to this thought process as well and have very much had to train my mind to thinking that I am sexy goddess. Our significant other can tell us how sexy we are every day of our life, but if we don't believe it, we will never feel it. From the size zero woman, to the size 26 women, I have heard it all. Though I may look at you and never guess that you have one insecurity in the world, you will tell me about 5 right off the bat. So with your help, I determine which part of you is just bat shit crazy because you are a sexy goddess and which area may not look the best if it is highlighted.
Now, it's very important to know that these rules do not always apply as we are all so very different in the way we can wear things. I am by no means a lingerie connoisseur, but I can visualize very easy what looks great on a real womens body. Here a few tips that I can lend to the beginner lingerie wearer. (Is that even how you say this?)
Women who are a little fuller in the mid section may not want to choose a bra and pantyset, (although there are posing tricks I can apply with this). I would most likely recommend a corset of some type, a baby doll, full body suit or a more loose fitting satin piece as you can see below.
Women who are taller, very skinny, and may not have as many curves, I would typically recommend something that would really highlight and push out the curves that you do have. In this instance, I would most likely not recommend a corset as it may make the thinned frame body look even more straight
Less, just may be best here. Let's push those curves out, I want to be able to see the curves of your body as much as possible. These lingerie pieces should highlight the hips, and waist, highlight the deep curves of the back and the fine lines of the butt.
I'll end with this, when choosing a boudoir photographer, do your research. Not everyone who photographs is specialized in every shoot. I always tell my women when doing a consult with me that this is not the type of session that you want to leave up to someone who is just starting out, is not as familiar with these sessions, or shoots primarily baby sessions. Trust me, the hands to the feet in happy baby pose, may make your husband happy, but it will not highlight you in your best light. Go with a trusted photographer who has a specialty in boudoir photography, someone whom you can go and ask other women about and they can give an honest opinion over, and someone who you feel comfortable with. Sharing a lot of this information about yourself is a very vulnerable area for most women. You want someone that you can have an open space with and a no judgement zone.
Here are some of my very favorite lingerie stores:
Hips and Curves
Amazon (believe it or not) return policy is amazing
When I was newbie photographer, I made it a point to photograph anything and everything that I could get my hands on. I was doing it all from newborns, to corporate headshots, weddings, families, you name it. I was just so interested and hungry to hone in on my skills and see where I was at in this new "professional" world of photography. I even got myself involved with a mentor, a very highly respected photographer. I felt I was ready to learn even more.
(Side Note) Sometimes we can just be busy and not effective.
On one of our training days, I remember being at his home and asking him to upload some of my images that I had taken into his computer so that he could give feedback. This was literally a heart wrenching moment for me as I was putting it all on the line. I was exposing what was so precious to me to allow someone to possibly rip it apart. I sat silently while he went through all the different photos I had taken, and awaited his possible compliments or dreaded critiques. He finally got through with them and like all well trained teachers, he began with a compliment stating my posing skills were phenomenal. However, I knew this exercise, I knew what was coming after that. He then took one of the images and blew it up on his big 26 inch screen, that reveals all and pointed to my subjects eyes and said but your focus is off.
(Side Note) We have to open to being vulnerable and seek guidance from someone that may me a little more learnt then we are.
I was so excited about just getting clients to photograph that I hadn't taken the time in to learn how to focus properly. Like literally step one in photography after picking the camera up. Although with the regular eye and to most non professionals, the pictures looked great at a glance. However, after seeing them on the big screen, I could see that most, if not all the pictures I had taken lacked focus and this would make it almost nearly impossible to print anything bigger than an 8x10 portrait.
In our lifetime, we can become so obsessed with just doing, that we don't even concentrate on the full picture. We tend to shoot and then aim. There is nothing wrong with with being an action taker, however in the end we may notice that our focus is off and we are aimelessy just staying busy.
Lack of focus can kill our productivity. If we are not concentrated, on what could be the most important part of the picture, we can end up with a product or service that is lacking and useless in the end. Many times I find my wheels turning in so many different directions. Part of that is being diagnosed ADHD, in my definition: the artist in me and some of that is just mindless wandering and getting stuck in the sink hole of social media. Either way, we need a good source of energy and concentration to bring us back to purpose. A few good techniques that I am in the course of learning and some that I am currently practicing are;
Try to get organized.
If you are someone like me and organizational skills are at the bottom of your, the things I'm good at list, then start small. Just a little tidying up can really make a huge difference in your life. Endless amounts of time are often spent looking for things that are sometimes right in front of our face. Cleaning up can help you stay focused and not have you running the rat race looking for things. Generally speaking, our mess can show us a lot about what is going on, inside of our life. Take a look around your space and let that mental picture soak in to remind yourself of what you may need to cleanup in your mind as well.
And remember that 90 percent of what we do and who we are is by choice. If you want to be more focused whether it be on your kids, your marriage, your career or life in general, just a simple mindset shift will start to lead you in the direction that you need to go to get back on track.
As I was going through a few pictures albums the other day, looking back at my baby boy as a newborn, a toddler, and a young kid, I sat quietly just staring at the photos with a smile on my face. My oh my, where has the time gone?
Now a highschool senior and halfway through mind you, I was just in awe! A friend of our family was visiting our home, (side note), this young fellow is considered a millennial but also on the verge of Generation Z, walked by me and asked what I was looking at. I smiled and passed the album over to him and said, "Joeys baby album." He laughed and said, "that is so 90's!" The funny thing about this statement was I wasn't shocked! As a photographer, I know the way the world sees photos now a days and even more so that everyone is about having those digital photos!
Oh the days of hanging pictures on our wall or doing the "90's" scrapbooking thing for everyone to see. I never thought I would hear myself saying the good old, "well back in my days!" But things really have changed havent they! We are now in an era that is known as the Lost Age. An age where millions of digital photos are taken everyday but with that, most will never see a wall. In fact, it's been shown that 86% of people have no plans of printing the photos that they take. You see, now we do the,"hey, come on over to my computer and let me show you my family pictures."
I believe so much in the power of a print that the moment when my clients walk through the door, they see a 40x65 Heirloom print of my family photo on the wall.
I love the way that people, not just my clients, stop and look at it in admiration for minutes. I catch my kids friends staring at it for moments and wonder if they think we are truly a mobster family! Its a conversation starter, an attention grabber, its my history, its my story, it's my beloved family!
That's not the only place you will catch printed photos on my walls. The moment you begin your descent downstairs, to the most comfortable spot in our home, is the moment you will find yourself walking a little slower then what you normally would. Here you will see more of our legacy and history as a family. Different moments, different vacations, different ages in our life, some of our most valued memories shared with everyone.
I make it very clear to my clients that I am proud to be a Print Artist.
Most of the time they will just nod and shake their head in agreement. Some will ask the question, "well, just what does that mean? I mean really, Sally from up the street gave me all my pictures last year on a disc and sent me on my way, won't you do that too?" That's my que to really explain the definition of why being a print artist is so different. I explain that when hiring a professional photographer like myself, they are investing in so much more than the quick pass off of a digital image. I explain that I honestly find it a disservice not to offer them an art piece for their wall. I believe that they too, should have an heirloom piece to pass down. I let them know they should not solely rely on the "cloud" that is somewhere up there, to store their photos, forever hidden from the world, unless ofcourse you are on Facebook. I explain that the images I print should outlive them. I tell them that I believe in giving them something tangible that they may pass down to their loved ones, etching their history into time. I want my clients to sit in their living room everyday enjoying and cherishing the photo that is hung on the wall or placed in a book and let it make them smile in remembrance of a time, a place, or moment that meant something to them. Even if that moment was "just the day that we met the photographer at Helen Hunts Falls, kids were crying and it was so windy, but we laughed, had a great time and now have a wonderful portrait from it."
Print artists like myself, aspire to give clients something to hold, something to touch, something to see off the screen. This allows us to connect with it so much more. It allows us to have those moments that tug on our heart more frequently when our images our right in front us and throughout our homes. It allows us to have those quite, teary eyed moments staring at a loved one who may not be with us any longer. It allows us to share our own story while others look with admiration. It allows us to share the history of the generations before us paying homage to who they were in our life and the life of others. This is a the power of a print. This is why I am a print artist! Lea
I first and foremost have to thank Josh, a business partner and professional, for not only the inspiration for this blog post, but as well the favor he asked of me.
Now, before I get started, most of you may think that this will come across as very rudimentary for a photographer of nearly 10 years, however, I want to make very clear that my first mentor Jonathan Betz told me, “ always try to take photos as clean as possible out the camera so that you have very little edits to do at your desk, unless you like that sort of thing.” For me, personally, editing photographs is my LEAST favorite part of the whole process!
I know, I know, for some of you who love to drop backgrounds in, snow, smoke, and new heads, may be thinking how unbelievably fascinating that may be, but I assure you, I truly have no desire! So, when I was asked to do something like remove a background from an image, I have to admit that I cringed a little bit in my seat as I had never done it.
To be quite honest, I procrastinated on it just a bit as I let the thought of it build up in mind. First, I would have to sit down and learn something new, which meant research time. I would have to look at multiple videos and sit and experiment for some time. Being ADHD, let me just tell you, it just doesn’t work for me! I don’t mind doing edits that I have done on regular basis, twenty four seven, especially since those edits now only take me one to two minutes per photo. But not this, this means I would have to sit and learn a new technique. Hindsight 20/20 I spent more time procrating and thinking of all the reasons I could'nt do it then what it took to actually edit the damn picture.
So I began the dreaded research. I began to get out of the normalcy of my day and stretch myself a little bit. I began my research in YouTube, the God of all learning experiences!
I first somehow started up in videos that demonstrated how to make chili rejenos.
I then got side tracked at the cute bulldog video that came up.
I checked my email in-between and then remembered why I had sat down on a Saturday afternoon when I should be somewhere like getting my nails done!
Oh yes, (sigh) taking a background out of a picture for dummies!
I was so proud that I did it! I was so proud that now I could add just another thing under my belt that I had done in the editing world. But most importantly, I started to realize very quick that I was more proud that I pushed myself out of my comfortable place. The place that feels safe and easy. The place where I can’t grow. The place that will keep me stagnant and unmoving. What a small yet powerful message I had received that afternoon.
I made things seem so much bigger in my head, I allowed myself to talk myself out of doing things that were actually not as hard as I thought. I allowed procrastination to kick in, the killer of all goals and dreams. Yet, just a little movement and action, a little push inside me, took me to the next step and the next and the next, until I was done.
I felt good with a sense of accomplishment as well for just finishing!
I then decided to push myself to the next dreaded thing I know I have been procrastinating on, my blog!
With December and January being one of the most popular times to get in engaged, we at Lea Flores Photography first want to say congratulations to our newly engaged couples! So, you are probably asking yourself now what? Where do we start, how do we go about everything? Well, we have a few words of wisdom and tips to give you two lovebirds on your upcoming journey! The first thing we always recommend to any couple when starting to plan their wedding, is to look for the venue first! If you can lock your venue down first, half of the stress of planning will be done. First and foremost, with the flux of new proposals that have just happened, many couples will begin getting on the phone asap. Secondly, most couple from the prior year have already started planning their wedding, which means for you two, that many of the local venues may be booked.
Determine, what style and theme you have in mind for your wedding and then specifically look into venues that cater to your design. For instance, if the bride to be, knows that she wants a rustic barn wedding, you wouldn't necessarily want to start with your hotel venues. Get on Facebook, look and ask questions in your local wedding groups. Didn't know they existed? You will be surprised at just how much information is at your fingertips in some of these forums! Not only is there a plethora of other information, you can ask your local neighbors about venues that they have seen and know of! Make of list of venues that you want to check out and get on the ball to get a tour done with them! Also if you are in Colorado Springs, take a look at Expertise.com as they compile a list every year of the most talked about and coveted photographers.
The next piece of information that we give our soon to be brides and grooms, is that there are three things you don't cut corners on, that is, the ring, the dress and your photography. All of these items should out live you and become a part of your legacy. Cut corners on everything else! You already have the ring, so next stop is your dress and photographer. As far as your photographer is concerned, DO NOT go with who is the cheapest photographer. Photographers offer services just like tattoo artist and you get what you pay for. You will have these images for the rest of your life. Go with someone whose work you admire. Check out their portfolio in detail and see if they have your specific style of photography that you desire! Set up a consult with them, sit down with them and make sure that you are a good match for each other. You will be spending a lot of time with your chosen photographer, not only on your wedding day, but possibly doing an engagement session and ordering save the date cards. Not to mention, some photographers like Lea Flores Photography offer full, customizable collections, that include boudoir before the wedding as well!
Now for the one of the most favorite parts of "her" planning, is to choose the dress. We definitely recommend trying on dresses as soon as possible. So look up some reputable bridal stores that, grab the girlfriends and be on your way! Allow time to first find the dress that you fall in love with, almost as much as him, try it on along with about 10 others as well and try to make your choice! You may have a goal in your mind of losing weight and once you try on the dress, you may know what your target point is. There may be alterations that have to take place, and these things take time, so make sure you have some! As you go along, your bridal dress design team will have you in for multiple fittings to see where you are at and also if some of the alternations that needed to be done regardless are looking amazing!
Now, while all the planning is going to be key in having the most amazing wedding, the most important part will be your love and the moments. The moments that this day will bring on. The moments that will represent your beginning to the rest of your lives.
So make sure you enjoy it. Make sure you stop and take a breather and truly enjoy every moment you put into this day, every detail that you both scrutinized over. Make sure that you look into eachothers eyes over and over and just appreciate the moment!